Toke Makinwa has opened up on dating again after her marriage failed
..Speaking to Fame Extra, she said on finding herself back in the dating
game.
It’s tricky! It’s exactly like learning to ride a bike again but I
think I am doing very well. Laughs. Of course you get the initial
stumble and fall off but the key is to accept that things are different
now and that’s ok. My first date after my separation, I cried on my way
home as I couldn’t believe I was back dating again, the stress and joys
of getting to know someone again, the excruciating pain of the past and
the will to trust another again
On her biggest misconception about marriage, she said
People are not honest enough! You are told to keep quiet about
everything like showing a sign of ‘all is not well’ automatically means
you have a bad marriage. The thing is, everyone struggles, no situation
is perfect and if people walked around with a little bit of honesty
about their situation, a lot of marriages might survive. Religion is
also a very big problem, God is involved in Marriage and he has also
blessed us with the capacity to think and make decisions for ourselves
so people need to be less religious and more aware of His love.
There will be way less judgement. So much goes on in a home and you are
told to keep mute, keep taking, pray till your knees get dark from
kneeling (which is a good thing, don’t get me wrong), but a lot of
people lose who they are trying to keep with all of these mandates that
doesn’t always work. I am not saying you should go around telling
everyone your business but I feel if we had more people open up about
their struggles and a society that is less judgmental, people will begin
to appreciate the beauty of seeing two people work at staying together
and realising the sheer amount of work required on both sides.
On the most absurd thing she read about herself, she said
That I had a child I was hiding. It was so silly but yeah, that was funny.
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